Monday, April 28, 2008

Awkwardly Mobile


Do all of you remember when your first baby started walking? Well, maybe not walking per se, more like stumbling madly around like Gary Busey on the tail end of a long bender, barking with glee and pawing at people. Sound familiar? Yeah, I had forgotten about that phase. My oldest, at a ripe old two and a half, has long since figured out how to hop down steps and avoid grabbing pots off the stove. He's mastered the no-no spots of the house and is really good at those quick saves before his big melon goes crashing into sharp corners. Most of the time.

So for the past few months I've been thinking, "Okay, sweet, now I can actually hold a mug of hot coffee and drink it. For more than four seconds at a time. Before it turns into arctic sludge." I even got to SIT with it a few times. And oh, what a PERFECT time for the parenting gods to rub their hands together and snicker. How silly of me to relax my neurotic-tension-reflex-o-meter, or whatever the hell is responsible for that mad dash towards disaster we all do to avert the certain ER-visit (despite how fun it is to sit in a waiting room with an injured toddler for two hours).

Yes, I am back in the trenches, people. My little guy has risen from the floor of the pack-and-play to stand boldly among the rest of the playground lunatics, and is officially walking. Very fast. I feel that horror-movie soundtrack creeping up: ".....just when you thought it was safe to sit on your rump and feign interest in dinosaur puzzles.......out of the shadows comes The Wobbly Slasher, wielding a rancid diaper and sharp flailing nails that haven't been cut for weeks because it takes three people to hold him down!!!!!! MWAHAHAHA........." (Cue agressive baby in ridiculous outfit chosen for parental comic relief, as shown above).

I've figured out that this whole process is frightening not only for the obvious crack open head/blood on carpet/huge steam-cleaning bill scenarios (and those stains are a doozy, my friends), but for reasons I thought were unique to my house alone. You know when you encounter something new and weird as a parent but don't mention it to your friends for fear that their children behave wonderfully all the time and yours are just freaks? Even though everyone has the same thought process? So I just never mentioned the fact that I spend most of my days getting harassed and pummeled by a couple of very small people who brush with fruit-flavored toothpaste and still poop in their pants. No kidding. I mean, they don't do it on purpose, unless this is their underhanded reprimand for denying them ice cream for breakfast. It's like breaking up a dog fight - you get involved and you're gonna get bitten one way or another. Or maybe I'm thinking of that time at bar. Could've been either...those girls were unsightly.

But truly, the whole process of mobility is maddening for all the hits that EVERYONE takes. Yes, naturally, the baby will look like a Gremlin what with the halo of green bumps around his noggin. He's gonna fall. Duh. There are miles of baby-proofing crap in Babies R' Us-spensive aimed at salvaging their little bodies and sense of security.....but once you move past that whole nursing section there's not much in the way of mom-proofing. As it stands, I would love to see some sort of hair guard to lock in the clumps I seem to be missing as they were used to break the little one's fall. Maybe a super-durable cardigan with metal shields for when that pasty white underarm waddle is used to brace said fall, instead of hair. It would be terrific to find an eye guard, maybe, or a chin plate to stave off that upward head-launch during a tantrum. Also, if someone could create some cute leg guards that extend all the way to the waist, we could avoid that lovely mix of rug-burned knees and patchy multi-colored bruises that look like a friggin' Phish tee when you spend all day low to the ground in case they toddle near the stairs and you have to lunge and catch. Not that I am bitter.

These days, the little guy seems to be slowly balancing a little more. Funny how quickly you forget what's involved, and mine are only, eh, a year and a half apart. I will slap myself later for saying this, but actually, it's kind of a load off to at least not have to carry the little chunky tornado everywhere. And really, it's quite charming and fulfilling, as a parent, to see the learning process at work in your sweet little ones, and know that you're doing your job well. But you can bet your $&*# that pack-and-play will be set up until those two are in middle school. Or at least until I get those leg guards.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Dear God, My Eyes...Put Away The Mom Jeans


The other day I received a catalog from a very recognizable brand of clothing/outdoor equipment/wealthy post-hippie adornments, and after flipping through with mild interest I came upon this atrocious display of, ahem, "fashion". Mind you, there is no child pictured here but you can bet your nuggets that this lady qualifies as a soccer mom.

Now, come on people. I realize that our foremothers have fabricated (yes, that was on purpose) a pretty awful legacy of Mom jeans and fanny packs that the rest of us now have to live down. Trust me, I remember those days. I have even worse pictures of my own mother circa 1986 with a burnt sienna perm and a McFly puffer vest, all the while sporting those stonewashed "waisties" that buttoned about an inch shy of her underwire. But I REALLY thought we had moved on. Seriously. Didn't we all have a big heart-to-heart somewhere around 1998 to declare once and for all that our asses looked much better when they are less than four feet long? Didn't we? *sigh*

Apparently all of that has been for naught as there are still people TODAY walking around in jeans that make them look like the stilt-walker in Cirque du Soleil (and Lord only knows how they manage to get the clogs to stay on). These women always have kids. And like all things comic, this stereotype EXISTS because it is TRUE. You laughed at those pants too!

This is the part, I believe, where I am obligated to pay homage to stuff like this simply because......hmm.....what was that lame excuse....something about "comfortable". Or "gigantic wedgie". Can't remember. The point is, if we were all meant to get through the days dressed solely for the comfort factor, I would have invested in cartoon scrubs and Crocs a while ago. But I didn't. And I assume you haven't either, my fellow mommies, unless you have chosen a profession that requires long shifts on your feet, taking care of sick people and weenies like me that pass out when a needle comes within two yards of my arm. (Although, doesn't that sound quite a bit like your job regardless....)

Now, please don't send me hate mail for mocking your beloved fat pants, should you own a pair. Or five. I have a good stash myself, thanks to the two toddlers that constitute my "job". My fat pants are my work gear, and believe me, I value the stretch factor sometimes. And I am certainly the last person to get dolled up for a playdate...HOWEVER...at least from my own perspective, I find that I feel a lot less shlumpy when I put a little effort in my appearance. Am I alone here? Trust me, I wouldn't dream of criticizing other people's style (to their faces), but from the looks of it, not all y'all are thrilled to be frumping around the park in big Tweetybird shirts with a ponytail so tight your eyes hurt.

Consider it tough love. I'll take one for the team and be the one to tell you the awful effect that has on you, and I'm not even talking about your hips. Seriously! Do you ever notice how differently you carry yourself on those days when you feel like a hottie? Personally I find it's that feeling alone that makes it worth just dipping into the budget, just this once, for a great pair of shoes or jeans that FIT, for crying out loud. Minus the stilts. It's hard enough for most of us to accept our new bodies after popping out a kid or two, and I think the best thing you can do is work with what you have. In my house, this means not feeling bad if my pant size is a higher number than I would like (it is), and learning to live with the fact that everything that used to be "perky" is not so much these days. Fine. I will move on. In fact, I spent the better part of the weekend saying goodbye to a lot of my tiny college clothes. I decided that this is just to make room for some new stuff that will be just as cute, but a few sizes bigger. It's an emotional separation, but I suggest you try it. I'm veering as far away from soccer mom as I can, and going for a new look. I will call it "Classy MILF", and as far as I'm concerned those clogs and Tweety shirts are nowhere to be found.